We got the call that we were chosen by J's birthmom to parent her unborn child!
Our caseworker told me 2 weeks before that we were being shown to a 16 yr old rape victim due in November. It was hard for me to get excited b/c of our past failed matches. I felt that this one would end up the same way, with us still waiting. Well I was on my way home from work and just before I turned into my subdivision I remembered we needed dog food. So I kept driving and headed for PetSmart, when my cellphone rang. I remember exactly where I was on the road. I saw that it was the number from the agency and got a little excited! I answered and our caseworker was so excited! She said, "Hi! Are you off from work yet?!" I told her I was and she sayed that she stayed at work later today b/c she wanted to be the one to tell us the "great news"! Great news?!?! She said " Well you recall that we were showing your profile to a 16 yr old rape victim? Well she and her mom chose you to parent the baby!!" My first response was, "Well should we really get excited about this? I would hate to get our hopes up and then get my heart broken again." She told me that she understood how I felt, but that this young lady and her mom truly wants to place the baby.She told me that the baby boy was due on Nov 29 and that we should plan to stay close to home for Thanksgiving and that we will have a wonderful Christmas Gift! We talked for about 20 minutes in the parking lot of PetSmart. The last few minutes I stood outside of Petsmart absorbing what had just happened. I was shaking as I walked in and as I paid for the dog food I had tears in my eyes! I'm sure people thought I was crazy!! I wanted to call and scream out to everyone that I was going to be a mommy!! FINALLY!!! But I had to wait until I got in my car so no one would call the cops on me!! Well I called someone to tell them the good news....My MOM!!! Yes I called my mom first! LOL!! We both screamed and cried! I asked her not to tell family yet until we were sure it would work out. Then I called Daddy, but after two failed matches and a scam, Daddy couldn't get excited. I totally understood. It didn't start to feel real until November. The time was drawing near and we never got a call that the birthmom changed her mind. We also started on his nursery and my mom purchased a crib for him. Of course I couldn't resist and I started buying baby clothes and a travel system!! Pretty soon the room was just waiting for a sweet baby to make it complete. Some days it was hard for me to look at it, but other days it brightened my day. Nov 29 came and went...We started to lose hope...Then on Dec 4, I was on my way to the bookstore when my cell phone rang. As faith may have it, I was on the same spot on the road when I got the call about the match!! Our caseworker said "Are you ready to come and get your son?" And the rest, as they say, is history :D
So one year ago today, we got the call that would change our lives forever!!
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